I am 40 years old and I have four children. My boyfriend is 37, and whenever we have sex, he tells me that I am loose. I told him that he should never tell me that.

He tried to have sex with me in my anus and I told him that if he tried that again, I would leave him. I was very surprised because I love him and our friendship is good. I didn't expect that from him.

I spoke to my gynaecologist. I went to see her after this man told me that my vagina was slack. My gynaecologist told me that nothing is wrong with me and I should not trust my boyfriend.

I am writing to you, Pastor, for your advice because my mind is turning away from my boyfriend. The doctor told me that I should do exercises and that will help to tighten me up. She told me the name of the exercises I should do, but I don't remember. 

G.F.

Dear G.F.,

Your pussy got too big. Try Kegel. K-E-G-E-L.  These exercises are called Kegel exercises. They were called Kegel because of the doctor who developed them. His name was Kegel.

"Doctor Kegel's primary purpose was to help women regain control of urination after child's birth, but these muscles have also been found to increase that pleasure sensation during intercourse when strengthened." I suggest, therefore, you go online and read about these exercises and practise them